Hi, I'm Kendal

I'm not just certified as a Grief Recovery Specialist. I'm a fellow griever, and I've experienced many losses of my own.

For more than a decade, I didn’t even know that unresolved grief was keeping me stuck.

If you were like me, you think grief is the big obvious stuff like death and divorce.

Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behaviour, and it's our normal and natural response to loss.

In fact, there are more than 40 ways we experience loss in our lifetime, and that realisation was a turning point in my healing because I could see how I'd been accumulating grief since I was a child.

◦ Abandoned by my biological father
◦ The death of my grandmother
◦ Death of pets
◦ Moving
◦ Divorce
◦ Breakups
◦ Betrayal
◦ Miscarriage
◦ Identity loss
◦ Financial instability
◦ and so much more...

The major themes of abandonment and neglect in my life, coupled with the invisible grief from the loss of safety and trust in others, taught me to be an adult who abandons and neglects herself.

No self-trust.
No self-compassion.
No self.

This unresolved grief manifested in my body as overeating, overspending, overworking, procrastinating, performing in relationships and attracting emotionally unavailable people (both platonically and romantically).

I felt stuck, almost unalive, numb in my body, full of shame, not progressing... knowing the dream, but unable to make it a reality.

After the birth of my daughter, the word grief found me and my journey through grief recovery began.

Now, I help others recognise the grief beneath their patterns, and finally learn how to feel it, instead of moving around it.

You are not broken.
You don't need to be fixed.
Your story does not need to be overanalysed, criticised, or questioned.

You just need to be witnessed in your pain, so that you can remember who the fuck you are!

That's the journey we'll take together.

Ready to find out what's really driving your patterns of behaviour?

Not all grief looks like grief.

👋 A little note from me...